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Topic: Family Business
Yeah, he's here, so is Chrissie, She's been a great support, though it really has not been too bad yet. They spent yesterday, Easter, with his Brother's family & their Dad, his wife & their son. The worst part was on my way to the house after a 10 hour work day I saw the car with the WI liscence plates rolling towards me on the road & it kept going, it was dark & I could not see who or how many people were in the car, I immediately remembered all the times I have heard him say, 'well fine, I'll just take the kids to WI & the WI laws will apply & I'll have custody' I almost turned around & followed the car but I called my Brother in law & acted like I was just letting him know I was on my way & he immediately told me the Ex & miss9 had just taken a run to the store but mr6 & his 5 year old son were playing together as we spoke. I felt very relieved & my hands had almost stopped shaking by the time I arrived at the house, I hung out & waited for them to come back from the store, made plans for mr6 to go with his uncle & cousin fishing in a few weeks on a sunday- which I'm sure he'll love.
The Ex is as usual morose & bitter & grouchy. Even when he's trying to be caring towards the kids it comes out as commands & threats.
No major confrontations last night, we behaved ourselves. Today was also non eventful in the arguing, cutting remarks & rude asides categories too, though I definitley got the feeling he was inspeecting my house for dirt, grime & unsafe things (the ladder stairs to the girl's bedrooms were inspected at length to the point where I offered to have him build some steps there if he'd like since he'd be cheaper than a handyman. He declined) We actually had a pretty good time because his new wife has been through the wringer with him lately & so we kind of ganged up on him & teased him a little, my own private observation is that marriage is not going to last much longer & I hope he doesn't think he's got a place waiting for him here.
Now they're talking about buying a house down here & moving down here. That's what I'm predicting will be the breaking strain on the Marriage. He doesn't do well in a small town, (I hope it's not this county at all- I think the next county over, where his Brother lives would be better) He seems to feel too smothered, too compressed & he did not like everyone knowing his business,
When we were still together he worked with a kid who then got fired & came to work where I worked. A few months of working with this kid (24 where I was 29 then- still a kid to me) He & I were pretty good friends. He then asked me one day if I knew T was hanging out a lot with the daughter of the boss at my ex's work & was at her house a lot at night, I did know that, we shared 1 car back then & I actually was there a lot too. But I really appreciated this kid's attempted heads up on the situation. My Ex, on the other hand was Pissed. He wanted to go beat the kid up for 'sticking his nose in where it didn't belong' This is how my Ex reacts to people just looking out for one annother.
Of course, I did find out a few years after he moved out that he was doing the Boss' daughter's best friend off & on that summer when I wasn't around. (I truly belive though, that you always know, in retrospect there were plenty of looks, glances & asides which I ignored when I was around them together, I just chose not to pay attention to them to the point where I had to act on them)
Yeah, If they move down here I'll be on her side, not his, in any problems there are, I feel like I'd have to be, I've been through it all before.
The ETD (estimated time of departure) was supposed to be Tuesday, now it's being moved around & may be Wednesday or Thursday, I'm not too pleased about that let me tell you!
Posted by Becky
at 7:03 PM EDT
